23 Dec 3 WAYS YOU CAN KEEP SEXUAL ATTRACTION AND DESIRE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Create Some Distance
Sounds counter intuitive although creating distance between your partner and yourself could just be the reason why your desire has depleted over the years.
This does not mean that you need to move out from living with them, this does however mean you and your partner are not joint at the hip doing everything together. Having some ‘you’ time to do the things you love doing that perhaps your partner is not that interested in.
Remember back to when your desire for your partner was really high, probably in the beginning stages of your relationship. The excitement of someone new, the uncertainty of your relationship and whether you will see your new partner again, or when.
Fill Your Own Cup First
This point definitely plays into the point above. You must fill your cup first, you must look after you first, you must take care of your mind, body and soul, first. When you do this, you limit the co-dependency that can take place in relationships where one partner relies on the other to make them feel – love, happy, important.
With an intent to fill your own cup first, you then can also give more to your partner.
Have an Identity
This is SO important. To keep sexual attraction and desire in your relationship, you must have your identity and not lose it to the relationship.
Many women I work with have lost their identity to either their relationship or their children. They give so much they lose who they are as a person.
Identity to me comprises of a number of things;
Knowing what you stand for in life.
Know what you believe in and stand true in those beliefs.
Understand what your values are and meet them on a daily basis
Have a high degree of self-awareness – know exactly how you are showing up in situations, how you are handling situations and how you are communicating
Have your hobbies, DO your hobbies – have your interests, passions. There is nothing sexier than talking to someone who are passionate about something. The most important piece to this is, if your partner is not interested to pursue your passion with you, do not give it up. Stay true to what you like and what makes you happy. They can respect your passion but, in all honesty, not every partner is going to enjoy doing your hobby.
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