POLYGAMY // OPEN RELATIONSHIPS // THREESOMES

POLYGAMY // OPEN RELATIONSHIPS // THREESOMES

Seems to be the topic of conversation lately (or maybe just in the circles I am in?)

If you have never heard of polygamy, it is the opposite to monogamy. It means to have more than one partner. This can be one male to many females or vice versa. It could mean both partners have multiple partners each.

Last year I was offered to be a Unicorn to a poly couple. A Unicorn is the third person to the relationship. Whilst the title is very beautiful and intriguing, in complete flattery I turned the offer down.

Sometimes heterosexual couples want to experiment and open their relationship to spice things up. I, also did this some years ago with a partner.

Considering that we aren’t monogamist by nature and many moons ago lived in societies where multiple sexual partners was acceptable and even encouraged especially when pregnant. If a woman slept with men whilst pregnant each of those men (regardless if they are the paternal father or not) would think of the child as their own, therefore the child would have a greater chance of survival.

If you are intrigued to try polyamory or a threesome, it is important to consider a few pros and cons before diving right in.

We are emotionally more developed than our primitive ancestors, whilst we can rationalise logically we also feel very deeply, individually I would consider;

Discussing exactly WHAT you both want to achieve through this experience.

What are you hoping to find?

What are your/partners boundaries?

How jealous are you individually

How much intimacy do you share currently as a couple.

What are your foundations as a couple like? Do you feel solid and secure within your relationship currently.

What does sex/making love mean to you as a couple. What do you create through being intimate?

Have you meditated on this experience and intuitively been given the green light?

When you consider this experience does your mind, heart and sex centre (genitals) give you a resounding YES!

Are you completely ready to face your shadow? Jealous, neediness, worry. Feelings of unworthiness and not enough can show up and present as triggers when opening your relationship. If you are not completely ready to dive deep on these and heal them as they rise it will provide some tough times for you are your partner.

Either way, opening your relationship can be a beautiful experience of growth and connection or could be the nail in the coffin to your relationship.

The outcome does depend on your intention and how well you manage yourself through the experience and what help you seek.

If you would like some help navigating this please reach out – lauren@laurenblundell.com

L xx

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