REASONS WHY YOU DO NOT FIND SEX PLEASUREABLE

REASONS WHY YOU DO NOT FIND SEX PLEASUREABLE

Women can take up to 40 minutes to open fully to pleasure and become aroused for orgasm.

Men can take up to 7 minutes.

These are generalisations (obviously)

But! You can see the disparity.

Many women do not experience orgasm during sex. I believe the below are major factors to the cause;

1) A lack of education of the body, sexual energy, sex and pleasure

2) A lack of understanding of your individual body and what you like sexually,

3) No relationship with your pussy

4) Not enough time dedicated to love making

5) A lack in confidence to tell your partner what / how you like it

6) Fear

7) Inability to relax and feel safe

8) Overthinking

9) A lack of connection outside the bedroom

10) No or disconnected self pleasure ritual

11) Pleasure is not felt in other areas of your life

12) Religious upbringing

13) Trauma from previous relationships

14) The patriarchal society beliefs / social constructs

15) Negative references towards pleasure and owning your desire

16) Your individual upbringing / how sex was talked/not talked about in the home

17) Shame and guilt

18) The way you are individually wired for orgasm

19) A lack of presences in the moment

20) Sexual trauma

21) Medical reasons

If you are experiencing any of the above please firstly be gentle with yourself.  It is important to not further shame yourself for not feeling empowered, confidence.  Accept where you are right now, but know that things can be different. They can be better.

Reach out to me lauren@laurenblundell.com to discuss how I can help.

L xx

Lauren Blundell
lauren@laurenblundell.com